Sorry

Our job as a parent is to teach our children right from wrong, life skills, manners, respect for self and others, and the list goes on. Often this means that we feel we have to be right all the time. How could a parent possibly get anything wrong or do and say something that is incorrect. The reality is that of course we make mistakes. Being sorry when we make a mistake is imperative as a parent. There is no shame in messing up and making mistakes, we were never taught how to be a parent, parenting is a very subjective issue and act. The shame comes from not being adult enough to acknowledge where you messed up and saying sorry. If I do something wrong it is important I own that and tell my boys. Not only does it teach them how to acknowledge when they make mistakes and the importance of declaring our mistakes and taking responsibility for the outcome or consequences, but it also shows them I am human and we can make mistakes and even as adults we can get things wrong and our judgement can be off. Shame doesn't come from saying what we did wrong but comes from never admitting our wrong doings in the first place. I very often make mistakes, do or say the wrong thing or behaviour in a manner that is not appropriate, but on reflection I am humble enough to admit it and apologise to the boys for my actions and by reflecting and learning constantly I can only hope that when I know better I can do better. After all who else will the boys learn from if not me, their mother [if !supportLineBreakNewLine] [endif]